I talk a lot about slowing down being the key to embracing the post menopause stage of life.
About the beauty in seeing the things around you in real time…in the present.
About it helping us to appreciate what we have all around us already…in true gratitude.
About it being a time where we can let go of the person we’ve been all our life and step into the woman that is our destiny.
About the power of pause when slowing down actually helps us to speed up.
But how easy is it in reality?
To slow down?
To pause?
This is what I found out…
I’m away this week.
Away from home, looking after my daughter’s doggie whilst she’s away.
I had all the plans to…
👣 Walk
✍️ Write
☺️ Chill out
🧘♀️ Meditate
I thought I’d be able to just switch into that ‘mode’.
You know…the one which means you get to truly relax.
But it’s not worked out like that at all.
Even though I’ve not had to do much in the way of ‘work’, it’s taken me the first 4 days to start to let go of the tension I hold in my body in my every day life.
I’ve felt jittery and just a bit ‘off’.
Almost bored and wishing the week was over.
Like it’s something just to get through then get back home.
We lead such busy lives going from one task to the next without appreciating what we’re doing, and I realised this in earnest when I caught myself yesterday eating my lunch quickly so I could get it ‘done’.
And that told me that I need more time away like this…a reset maybe once a quarter…just to unwind.
Years ago I used to notice that whenever we went away on holiday, it took me several days to fully relax into ‘off’ mode.
Does this sound familiar?
Well, trying to slow down is like transitioning from a sprint to a still lake. It’s never instant, and the turbulence that comes up is a sign that your body is adjusting.
But know this…you’re not failing at rest.
You’re just feeling what’s been waiting underneath all the doing.
When we’re constantly doing – working, helping others, ticking off the to-do list – we often don’t give ourselves time or space to feel what’s truly going on inside. That “doing” acts like a protective layer or a distraction. It keeps us moving so we don’t have to face things like…
…Tension or stress we’ve pushed aside
…Emotions we haven’t processed – like sadness, resentment, loneliness, or even joy
…Physical exhaustion we’ve ignored
…The deeper truth of what we need, want, or feel
…Old patterns, wounds, or beliefs that haven’t had a chance to be seen or healed
So when you stop doing, and try to rest or slow down, those things start to surface – not to overwhelm you, but to be acknowledged, held, and (if you allow) gently released.
It’s not that you’re suddenly feeling worse; it’s that the stillness gives you space to actually notice what’s been living in your body, heart, and energy field all along.
Space to just ‘be’…without distraction.
It’s a form of self-reunion.
So today I’m sitting with these feelings, the uncomfortable urge to ‘do’, the rushing through meals, the jitters, and just seeing where they take me. I’m not hiding from them because I won’t resolve anything if I do that. I’m facing them, acknowledging them and letting them pass.
Because everything passes eventually.
I’d love to know what works for you to help you relax and come out of ‘do’ mode? Let me know 🙏
With love 💫
Caroline x
The Menopause Alchemist®
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